Casting
By Lori S. Wyman, CSA
I’ve been casting for
over 3 decades and I have seen a lot of examples of insecure actors. I am
bringing up this topic today, because there are things you can do to help boost
your self-esteem when you are in the casting room or on a set.
When an actor goes to
an actual casting they walk into the waiting room. This is equivalent to
walking into a shark tank. All of the actors are talking and oftentimes
bragging about what they have been doing. Now you, as an unsuspecting actor,
walk into this room and you hear all of this and you think to yourself, ‘why
aren’t I working?’
Little do you know
that some of this talk is nothing but made up nonsense to throw everyone off
who is in the room.
One day, during a
casting in my office, I heard this actress telling everyone how busy she was.
The other actresses started feeling very insecure. When that particular actress
came into my casting room, I asked her what she had been working on. THEN she
got honest with me. Well, she was “working on” cleaning out her closets,
packing up and moving apartments, and that sort of thing. NOTHING to do with
the film business, but she led everyone in the waiting room to believe that she
was SO BUSY as an actress.
An actor came into my
office to audition for a big film role. He decided to look at the sign in sheet
to see who else had auditioned for that same role. This is NOT a good idea. He
saw 1 name on the list and had a small meltdown. He took me aside and asked to
speak to me. He told me that he knew that one actor in particular and that
actor was REALLY GOOD and that he couldn’t compete with that person, so he
wanted to go home without trying out for the role. I stopped him. Without
telling him the details of the other, BETTER, actor, I begged him to try and
audition. What he didn’t know was that other actor had gotten ill with a
disease that prevented him for speaking clearly and performing well. What he
didn’t know was that HE was much better than his competition, because his
competition wasn’t as good as he used to be.
Several years ago I
taught one of my on camera classes that had several women in it who normally
compete against one another on castings. When I teach my on camera class every
actor gets the opportunity to prepare sides and perform them on camera. We all
watch the mock audition back and then I critique. Three of the ladies were
friends and the fourth lady was their competition. Or so they thought. Every
time they would walk into a casting and see this other woman they would feel
like they had no chance at the job. Well, once they watched this fourth woman
on camera in class, they realized she was not any better than they were. You
know what she had? CONFIDENCE!!! She exuded a lot of confidence and would walk
into the room knowing that she was the best and oftentimes, this confident
attitude would win her the role.
Another thing that
insecurity can cause is a false perception of a particular situation.
I will be honest, I
do not like shaking hands with actors when they come into my casting room.
Actually, a director taught me not to shake hands many years ago. He explained
that when you see dozens of people in any given day, a few of them might be
sick. If you shake the hand of an actor who might have the flu, then rub your
own nose, VOILA! You wake up with a sore throat the next day. I cannot tell you
how many times that has happened to me over the years. So I took this
director’s advice and stopped shaking hands. THEN I stopped getting sick after a
big casting. So, back to the insecurity issue. One day an actor came into my
office for a casting. I did not shake his hand. I use to say that I had a cold
and I didn’t want to get anyone sick, but then one day an actor told me he was
sick, too, and he didn’t care. THAT’S when I just decided to say I just don’t
shake hands. I told this particular actor that I don’t shake hands and he
created this whole insecure internal dialog in his head over it. He determined
that I didn’t like him, that I felt he was beneath me, and that I thought he
was dirty. Furthermore, he created such inner turmoil in his brain that he
decided to post all of these, unfounded, thoughts on social media calling me
all kinds of names. I didn’t want him in my office again, understandably so.
All because he was insecure and thought I was singling him out. I just wanted
to stay healthy and he had a whole, personal, agenda around it.
I was in my local
Whole Foods one day. Apparently, an actor was in the store at the same time as
I was. He looked over at me and smiled. I did not smile back. What he didn’t
know was that I never saw him. He didn’t know that and presumed I didn’t like
him and that I ignored him. Again, he was hurt, lashed out at me on social
media and created negative feelings when there were none in the first place.
I decided to share
this with you today because so often we create our own turmoil all because of
our insecurities.
“Nothing holds you
back more than your own insecurities,” is a quote I found when I Googled quotes
on insecurities. There were pages of them. Clearly, it is an issue that
pertains to many people. Don’t let your own insecurity about someone put you on
the defensive so much so that you create an enemy over it.
Several years ago
Facebook, NOT I, unfriended an agent that I used to work with. I had no problem
with him, whatsoever. When he saw that he was unfriended, he created this huge rift
between us. I told him that I had not done it, but that it was done by the site
itself. He refused to believe me and has refused to work with me ever since.
Not only has he refused to work with me, he has turned many of his actors
against me. I feel so badly for those actors. I have cast many television shows
and feature films since that happened and all of those people were left out of
potential bookings.
Being insecure can
cause all kinds of problems. Don’t take everything so personally. It is not
always about you. Take a deep breath, believe that you are good, and move
forward. You will get much further in life if you do.
If you are interested
in taking your auditioning skills to the next level, please look at www.theorganicactor.com
at the calendar page to see the upcoming classes that Lori Wyman offers.
If
you are interested in adding to your resume, please look at www.theorganicactor.com
at the calendar page to see the upcoming classes that Lori Wyman offers.